Mental toughness is the ability to manage your emotions and control your thoughts and behavior in ways that will set you up for success. It’s not something you’re born with— it’s something you can learn, and not only in tough times.
When I worked for the FBI, I learned that agents needed mental toughness to chip away at messy cases that can last for years. I learned that ignoring problems case wouldn’t make them go away. I had to learnhow to work through the problems until I found an answer.
When you think of your ideal relationship, unconditional might very well be the epitome of #goals. “I love you when…” “I love you if…” “I love you, but…” What do all of these statements have in common? They’re conditional — and as the very term suggests, you can’t achieve unconditional love with “ifs” and “buts.” But what’s the psychology behind unconditional love? Is it even possible? How does it grow? And are there ways to nurture it? Continue at Source: The Psychology Behind Unconditional Love, According To Science
Here are the best psychology blogs that offer information, insight and interesting content.
Psychologists and people who are interested in the field run psychology blogs where they share discoveries, ideas, news, and opinions. These blogs serve as a useful introduction to the field of psychology and as an effective way to stay current in the field. Continue at Source: 10 psychology blogs you should read
Do social networks contribute to epidemics of anxiety and depression? A startling recent increase in depression for adolescents and young adults suggest they are being attacked by something very recent. Researchers point to the rise of social media. Is this just another case of paranoia about new technology? Continue at Source: Why Young People Are So Anxious and Depressed
Lessons from The Velveteen Rabbit.
One of the hidden culprits behind self-sabotage is the need for perfection and control. Self-sabotage has a strange way of helping us maintain the illusion that if only, we had put in more effort or had better circumstances, everything would have worked out as it should. Social psychologists call this counter-intuitive strategy of regulating self-esteem “self-handicapping.” It’s very seductive to engage in self-sabotage because the hidden payoff is high. Continue at Source: Self-Sabotage and the Art of Becoming Real
Find out how to spot narcissists before you fall for them
On TV, they are easy to spot. Characters like Dr. House captivate the audience with their arrogance, charisma, brilliance…and narcissism. While our attraction to narcissism may be harmless in a fictional setting, it has negative consequences in real life. By the time that we discover a narcissist’s façade, it is likely too late. We may have already started dating (and perhaps even loving) the narcissist. Continue at Source: 10 Surprising Ways to Spot a Narcissist on Social Media
“I’m so stupid,” Kasha muttered, “I always find a way to screw it up, always. This is why I never get anywhere in life… I’m just an idiot.” Since this was our first session, I allowed Kasha to finish her several-minute-long self-flagellation without interruption. She had initially scheduled the session to discuss other issues but an hour earlier, her boss called her into her office and chewed out Kasha for missing an important deadline and Kasha was too upset about it to discuss anything else.
New research explores why many people seek out scary experiences.
For that matter, why do people enjoy roller-coasters, bungee jumping, or any of the countless other activities that seem to serve no purpose except to make people feel terrified, however briefly? Is there a positive benefit to exposing yourself to these kind of intense negative experiences? According to recent studies, there may be. Continue at Source: Why Do People Like To Be Scared?
During a 2006 commencement speech at Knox College, Stephen Colbert made a highly trenchant point that many of the attendees probably dismissed as bullshit. “Cynicism masquerades as wisdom,” he said, “but it is the furthest thing from it.” Social science suggests that this is a true statement that can be defended with data. Even so, research also shows that most people believe being cynical is positively correlated with being smart. Cynicism is, in short, not only a potential sign of intellectual laziness, but a trap that snags many people, particularly parents. Read more at Source: Cynical Parents Raise Incompetent Kids
An Iowa State University study finds there’s a simple yet powerful way to improve your mood in just minutes. ISU Psychology Professor Douglas Gentile says … Read More …